Racial Preferences

One of those topics that make you cringe. I came from Africa to Europe and I have to say that dating has taken a really weird turn.

In Africa, I find that men took a lot of initiative in the whole process. The majority were black people so I was fine. I used to be deemed as one of the hottest girls and it got me all loved up. I enjoyed the attention. I would have a crush here and there on a non-black person, because in Africa, Caucasians were the minority. Now all these things changed when I moved this side of the hemisphere, Caucasians are the majority, so now I’m a minority. My beauty level went from a nine to being a mere six, ouch. I have to say that I felt the pain of the fall. Being minority is not fun at all, now I know how all those Caucasians in Africa felt like. This whole experience has got me thinking about racial preferences.

Some people from the minority groups feel that having a racial preference is racist, I don’t. I understand why only a few Caucasian people find me attractive, it’s because they are the majority. There’s a lot of Caucasian people in these countries so why the heck would they have a preference for an African girl. In their eyes, they are probably not used to people like us, whether you grew up in Europe or not. They will go for people who almost resemble their women, so they might date a Chinese girl because they have fair skin and long straight hair. I found that the top reason a Caucasian guy will date me is after they get to know me, so dating sites are not the best place to be if you’re looking for serious connection, I think. Anyways the reason I’m talking about the majority is because in the years I’ve been here, I’ve only met a handful of black guys I’d be willing to date.┬áSo with that said, I don’t understand why some black people feel offended when they see an interracial couple. Why should it be surprising when there aren’t a lot of black people to go around? You want a better chance, then go to Africa.

There’s nothing wrong with interracial couples, just because you see one, doesn’t mean everyone will “all of a sudden” start dating outside their culture. Even though there will be people willing to date outside, most will date from within their culture and it’s not racist, whether you were born here or not. Just so you know, I’m speaking for myself as a black woman. Lucky for me, I don’t have a racial preference or a gender preference, so I’m good to go. I just think that people should stop calling people racist because they’re not part of the majority, especially when it comes to dating. Sure there’s racist people out there but I don’t think it’s fair to any majority to say that they’re racist based on your own biases. If black people were in China then would the Chinese be racists, or does it only reflect on Caucasians?

We should not be looking at more reasons to call others racist, but rather deal with the reality that we are all equal especially at work and in society. We are more than our race, we are individuals with likes and dislikes, not everything should come back to race. The sooner we realise this, the better we can get along.